Advice On social Situations Please

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fireme created the topic: Advice On social Situations Please

Here's the thing. I am not a very sociable person yet I'm a hard worker. I'm currently in a job where I have to work around other people and I find it hard to focus on work for the duration of my shift. What would any of you do in a situation like this?

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Snowy replied the topic: Advice On social Situations Please

You could try a "fake 'til you make it" approach. Oftentimes when you employ that tactic, you'll find that you actually come to enjoy the situation you're in. If that doesn't work, is there any way you can change positions in the company?

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Mushroom replied the topic: Advice On social Situations Please

What do you think makes it hard for you to approach people? I don't know if you have tried to improve that part first; otherwise, I'd say talk about it openly to your superiors. Perhaps you need the salary, but it's not always worth your mental health.

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fireme replied the topic: Advice On social Situations Please

Mushroom wrote: What do you think makes it hard for you to approach people?


Approaching people isn't the issue, maintaining a conversation is (IRL) I'm usually full one liners and witty "quips", and then I'm done with it. Shoo......get away from me. It's hard for me to be serious with people, and the thing is.....I want to move up in that company. Regular workers like me.....I feel like they're there for the social aspect. And the supervisors.....I've never been "one of them", so I feel like the odd man out.

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Mushroom replied the topic: Advice On social Situations Please

I think being introverted and not taking people seriously are different. Introverted people can work on communication by words and actions. For the latter, maybe you can explore yourself once again why it happens that way so you can improve it.

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Zara replied the topic: Advice On social Situations Please

I think that the best advice that I can give you is to start to visualize yourself as the kind of person you want to be. If you want to be more sociable and outgoing it's very possible to 'alter' your self image until you are comfortable meeting and being around other people.

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AutumnRose replied the topic: Advice On social Situations Please

I can totally understand that. Sometimes I just do not like people either. Perhaps you might be happier working a job where you did not have to interact with a lot of people while you work. If it were me, I would tough it out there but also be looking for another job I would enjoy more. You might prefer working in an office or a call center where you interacted with the public on the phone instead of face to face.

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Perplexed replied the topic: Advice On social Situations Please

fireme wrote:

Mushroom wrote: What do you think makes it hard for you to approach people?


Approaching people isn't the issue, maintaining a conversation is (IRL) I'm usually full one liners and witty "quips", and then I'm done with it. Shoo......get away from me. It's hard for me to be serious with people, and the thing is.....I want to move up in that company. Regular workers like me.....I feel like they're there for the social aspect. And the supervisors.....I've never been "one of them", so I feel like the odd man out.


I'm interested in this subject that you have brought up because for most of my working life, I'm retired now, I felt like "the odd man out". What type of job is it, Sales, Customer Service, Technical? Is the social aspect in the "office politics" a real important part of the job in order to "fit in", or is it a sideline and not a requisite part in the "getting ahead" probabilities of the position? Also, are you on the introverted side whereas your tolerance for idle "chitchat" is very low? Are your co-workers young "flippers" who dart in and out of jobs so that their presence is of no consequence to the "race to the top"?

These questions may help you sort things out. It sounds to me that you are a hard worker who has little regard for nonsensical prattle in the workplace, and needs to contribute in a logical, productive fashion for the betterment of the firm or company with an eye toward advancement, and that you may be "putting on an act" with the "one liners" in order to show some form of "compliance" with the others. If all of the above pertains to you and you still feel alienated from the supervisors, after a while more employed there, then, my heartfelt feeling would be to look elsewhere for more suitable circumstances where you can apply your skills without all of the "drama" at your present place of work. Good Luck!

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